Pastor Michael Bowman<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u201cThen Peter came up and said to him, \u201cLord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?\u201d Jesus said to him, \u201cI do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.\u201d (Matt. 18:21-22)<\/strong> Jesus had just spoken about the process of church discipline and what that should look like. Having brought up the idea of forgiving a brother who sins against us, Peter may have been looking for an out. Most of us would be doing the same thing. \u201cSure, we should forgive but only seven times, I mean not if someone keeps on being sinful right?\u201d \u201cI get the whole forgiveness of sins thing, but that\u2019s for people who have sinned in much more minor ways, you don\u2019t understand what my Dad did to me\u2026\u201d \u201cI can\u2019t forgive my husband, he needs to get what he deserves.\u201d The excuses could go on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jesus wasn\u2019t unaware of our hearts and our natural inclination toward revenge. In fact, that\u2019s why he answered the way he did. \u201cI do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.\u201d This isn\u2019t the number of sins you have to tally in your journal before you can stop forgiving someone. In fact if you are keeping track enough to count up to seventy-seven, then you actually haven\u2019t forgiven even once. Forgiveness won\u2019t be keeping a record of wrongs. So what is the Lord saying? It\u2019s much more profound than you might initially think.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In Genesis 4 we get the story of Cain and Abel. After Cain kills his brother we get a list of his descendants. In vs. 19 we learn of Lamech, seemingly the first person to take more than one wife, and in vs. 23-24 it says, \u201cLamech said to his wives: Adah and Zillah, hear my voice; you wives of Lamech, listen to what I say: I have killed a man for wounding me, a young man for striking me. If Cain\u2019s revenge is sevenfold, then Lamech\u2019s is seventy-sevenfold.\u201d Does that help you understand what Jesus is saying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Left to ourselves we are all like Lamech. We have revenge in our hearts. It shouldn\u2019t take you long to think of an occasion where you desired (or tried to carry out) revenge when someone sinned against you. Your spouse said something cruel so you punish them by not speaking with them. Someone slanders you and says false things about you to other people in the church so you make sure to tell everyone the dirt you\u2019ve been gathering on them. You lash out in anger when someone let you down at work. Much like the excuses, we could just keep going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Christ brought forgiveness into the world. If you are a Christian, then you have been forgiven, your sins are no longer remembered and you have been reconciled to God. You are now called to forgive in kind, to forgive as you have been forgiven, to bear the sin of others. Calling for forgiveness seventy-seven times was not Jesus\u2019 way of setting a higher standard. What is being called for is a totally different outlook on the world. It\u2019s the evidence of a transformed heart, something that comes as a result of God\u2019s forgiveness toward us. This is really the starting place of the Christian life, yet how often do we get it wrong? Sin is a guarantee in our families and in the church; how we deal with it shows whether or not we understand forgiveness. How do you live out this new heart of forgiveness? What would it look like for us as a church if we lived out Christ\u2019s call to forgive seventy-seven times? <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThe LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. As a father shows compassion to his children, so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust.\u201d (Psalm 103:8-14)<\/strong> In order to understand forgiveness we have to define it, and in order to define it we have to start with the character and work of God. In order to do that, let\u2019s begin by looking at what God has revealed about his character that informs our definition of forgiveness. We will start in Psalm 103. This Psalm begins and ends with the phrase, \u201cBless the LORD O my soul.\u201d The whole goal of the Psalm is to draw the reader into worship, blessing the LORD. Toward that end, vs. 2 says, \u201cBless the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits.\u201d What is the first benefit mentioned? \u201cWho forgives all your iniquities.\u201d Praise the Lord because he forgives! This Psalm expands on the forgiving character of God, and I want to bring your attention to a few of the things that are mentioned. <\/p>\n\n\n\n First, God\u2019s forgiveness flows out of his character. \u201cThe LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever.\u201d This is echoing the way in which God revealed himself to Moses in Exodus 34. In this passage, before proclaiming these things, it says that literally God was proclaiming his name.<\/em> This is God\u2019s name<\/em>. In other words, these words define the very nature of who he is. God is not defined primarily by his anger, wrath, displeasure or disappointment. He has defined himself primarily by his mercy, grace and love. In that way, his forgiveness flows out of his love. Love here is not the sentimental, nice feelings that we often think of, rather it is the beneficial action done on behalf of it\u2019s object. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Second, his forgiveness means he doesn\u2019t treat us as we deserve. \u201cHe does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities.\u201d Our nature leads us to want to get people back when they have wronged us, to give them what they deserve. This isn\u2019t how God has treated us. He doesn\u2019t treat us as we deserve, and what a glorious truth that is. God does not love us because we have earned it, he doesn\u2019t forgive us because we are entitled to that forgiveness. It flows out of his character, not ours, out of his grace and mercy, not our goodness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Third, in his loving forgiveness, he has removed our transgressions from us. \u201cFor as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.\u201d For those who fear the LORD and are the object of his redeeming love, sin is not the defining feature of who they are. He has done away with it. Though they have transgressed his Law, he has removed the sins from them. It\u2019s not that your transgressions have been taken down the road a short way and are bound to find their way back to you. No, they have been removed \u201cas far as the east is from the west.\u201d As far as far is, as distant as it is possible to move them, so has he done for those he loves. You don\u2019t have to live in fear thinking your sins might find you out and dominate you once again. They are never coming back. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Fourth and finally, his forgiveness flows out of his Fatherhood. \u201cAs a father shows compassion to his children, so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust.\u201d A good father doesn\u2019t allow sin to define his relationship to his child. It\u2019s not that he is passive in the presence of sin. He does deal with it, but he does so always out of compassion. That is how God deals with you who are in Christ. He knows your weaknesses, he knows your brokenness, he knows your finitude. As a good Father, he does not let your sin destroy you or your relationship with him. He deals with it, removing it from you, forgiving you for all of it. These glorious truths lead to one response, \u201cBless the LORD, O my soul!\u201d <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201c\u2026if my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.\u201d (2 Chronicles 7:14)<\/strong> How do you think of God? What do you think he is like? Do you think that he is watching every move you make just hoping that you trip up so he can punish you? Do you think he is looking for any opportunity to cast you out? Perhaps it\u2019s because of the failure of our own fathers, or maybe it\u2019s a misunderstanding of Scripture, but there is a common sentiment among believers that, if they are honest, they think God is generally disappointed and angry with them. Now, of course, this may be true in a limited way if you are living in unrepentant sin and rebelling against him. Still, as we\u2019ve seen in the last article, God\u2019s anger and displeasure are not the defining features of his character. God has revealed himself to be a loving Father, and that is shown in part by his readiness to forgive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Here is a question: Would you be more likely to confess your sins to someone if you knew they were ready and willing to forgive you, or if you knew the only response you would receive is of displeasure, disappointment and maybe an end to the relationship? It\u2019s a no brainer. We would all rather confess sins to someone if we knew rejection wasn\u2019t the guaranteed response. Well, God is the kind of God who is ready and willing to forgive your sins when you will confess them to Him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n God wants his people to bring their sins to him to be dealt with. It\u2019s not as though he is unaware of them. Our reaction to sin is often to try to cover our own shame and run away. Just like our first parents, we try to hide from God. This happens when we are focused more on the shamefulness of the sin than the graciousness of our Father. Sure, the sin is shameful; it\u2019s supposed to be. It\u2019s not a problem to be ashamed of sin. The problem is when we stop there. Shame is supposed to drive us to humble ourselves, pray to our Father and seek his face, not hide from it. When we respond in this way God says, \u201cthen I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n God is a God who wants to forgive; it overflows from his heart. \u201cFor you, O Lord, are good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon you\u201d (Ps. 86:5). Because of his goodness, his mercy, his grace, and his love, he is not waiting around to hold your sin against you. He isn\u2019t hoping for you to fail so he can throw it in your face. He doesn\u2019t want shame and guilt to be a weight that crushes you but a leash or tether that draws you back to him. \u201cIf we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness\u201d (1 Jn. 1:9).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t hide from the face of God. Don\u2019t allow the lies of the devil to keep you from bringing your sin and shame and guilt to the heavenly Father. He is faithful, he is just. No, he will not by any means pardon the guilty, he will not deal lightly with sin, but in Christ he has made an end to all of it for you. Come, confess your sins to him, he is quick and ready to forgive. <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWho is a God like you, pardoning iniquity and passing over transgression for the remnant of his inheritance? He does not retain his anger forever, because he delights in steadfast love. He will again have compassion on us; he will tread our iniquities underfoot. You will cast all our sins into the depths of the sea. You will show faithfulness to Jacob and steadfast love to Abraham, as you have sworn to our fathers from the days of old.\u201d (Micah 7:18-20)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Is there any God like the Lord? The obvious answer is no, but what sets him apart? In large part what sets the Lord apart from false gods is his forgiveness. In this passage, Micah draws on themes from many ideas in Scripture, and it would do us well to think through some of these ideas again even if we have covered them already. <\/p>\n\n\n\n First the Lord is a God who pardons iniquity and passes over transgressions. He does this for his people, \u201cthe remnant of his inheritance.\u201d How does he do this? There is a hint in the phrase that he \u201cpasses over transgressions.\u201d What does that remind you of? Hopefully it will remind you of the night of passover. Passover began after the final plague in Egypt, the Angel of death which claimed the firstborn of all the Egyptians. The only way the Israelites were kept from the same judgement as those around them was because, trusting in the Lord, their homes were covered by the blood of a lamb which was put on their doorposts. This was symbolic of something that God actually continued to do until the coming of Christ. The propitiatory work of Christ on the Cross was done in part, \u201cto show God\u2019s righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins\u201d (Rom. 3:25) He passed over the sins of his people because they were covered in the blood of the lamb of God, the one who would come and make an end to their sin. That is why God could pardon them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Second, the sins of the people would be cast into the depths of the sea. The idea here is one that we\u2019ve already looked at. The sins will be taken far away. They will no longer define the people, they will no longer be central to their identity, they will no longer be held over their head. They will be done away with completely. To cast something into the depths of the sea was to cast it somewhere from which it could never return. There is no sin coming back to haunt you if it has been forgiven by the Lord. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Third and finally is this phrase, \u201cHe will again have compassion on us; he will tread our iniquities underfoot.\u201d His compassion will be made known through treading underfoot our iniquities. I would propose that this phrase is also meant to remind us of something that God has promised earlier in Scripture. In Genesis 3:15 while God is cursing the serpent he includes a promise, \u201cI will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.\u201d Someday a child born of the woman would come and crush the head of the serpent under his foot, though in doing so he would be wounded. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I think Micah is drawing on this image. Our iniquity, our sinful nature, God was going to crush it under his foot. He would make an end to it out of his compassion for us. This is exactly what forgiveness in Christ is. Christ was wounded on the cross, his heel was bruised, but he also dealt the finishing blow to our sin. The sin that once defined us was tread under the feet of God, his wrath was poured out, and it was done that you might be forgiven. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSeek the Lord while he may be found; call upon him while he is near; Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, that he may have compassion on him, and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.\u201d (Isaiah 55:6-7)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The Lord doesn\u2019t skimp when it comes to forgiveness. He isn\u2019t stingy with his grace. When he is pouring out the blessing it leads to an overflowing cup not thirst. That seems like maybe it\u2019s a no brainer. Maybe you think, \u201cwell of course that\u2019s true, why are we going over this once again\u201d, but do you really get it? Do you actually believe it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Lord is rich in grace and it is out of those riches that he bestows on us true forgiveness. \u201cIn him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace\u2026\u201d (Eph. 1:7). He\u2019s so wealthy that he is constantly giving it away and just doesn\u2019t stop. He doesn\u2019t hold back when it comes to grace. He\u2019s not afraid that his forgiveness might be misused by those he pours it out on, that is almost a guarantee. But his giving is both benevolent and efficacious. It actually does something to change the object of his grace. As his riches overflow his account into theirs it teaches them how to be rich and benevolent with grace. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Isaiah 55 is full of imagery that shows his grace. The chapter begins with the prophet calling people to come to the gracious God of heaven saying, \u201cCome, everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and he who has no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without price\u201d (Is. 55:1). Are you poor? Homeless? Hungry? Are you in spiritual need (helpful hint: you are)? Then come to the Father who gives good gifts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n He calls the wicked back to himself, and what does he do when they come to him? He has compassion on them, and relevant to our topic it says, he will abundantly pardon<\/em>. You might say within yourself, \u201cYou could just say he will pardon. Isn\u2019t it a bit much to keep emphasizing this? You don\u2019t want God to sound like he doesn\u2019t have standards. He won\u2019t pardon just anyone\u2026\u201d No, God is a God who will abundantly pardon any who come to him. Yes, there are qualifications that can be made, but not here. He doesn\u2019t go light on forgiveness, he lays it on thick. He\u2019s not your mom trying to stretch every dollar, pinching pennies. He isn\u2019t your dad always turning down the thermostat to save on the electric bill. His pardon is abundant<\/em>. It\u2019s interesting that most of us have heard the verses directly following this one. \u201cFor my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. <\/strong>For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts\u201d (Is. 55:8-9). You usually hear this text quoted in connection to in-depth theological debates when someone points out that we can\u2019t know all the mysteries of God, but have you ever heard it in reference to how forgiving God is? It\u2019s not that it doesn\u2019t apply more broadly but it happens to come right after a statement about the extravagance and extremity of God\u2019s forgiveness. He isn\u2019t cheap. He pardons abundantly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cFor this is the blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.\u201d (Matt. 26:28)<\/strong> We\u2019ve seen so far in this series that forgiveness is central to the character of God and how he has revealed himself. As with all other aspects of God\u2019s character, forgiveness is most clearly shown through the person and work of Jesus Christ, God the son. It was at the fullness of time that Jesus was incarnate by the Holy Spirit, being born of the Virgin Mary, in order that he might establish a New Covenant. This covenant was promised and looked forward to throughout the Old Testament, and at the center of the promised covenant was forgiveness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Jeremiah 31:31-34 says this, \u201cBehold, the days are coming, declares the LORD, when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah, not like the covenant that I made with their fathers on the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt, my covenant that they broke, though I was their husband, declares the LORD. For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, declares the LORD: I will put my law within them, and I will write it on their hearts. And I will be their God and they shall be my people. And no longer shall each one teach his neighbor and each his brother, saying \u2018Know the LORD\u2019, for they shall all know me, from the least of them to the greatest, declares the LORD. For I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Mosaic covenant accomplished what it was intended to but not all that it pointed toward. Moses could lead the people to the border of the promised land, but he couldn\u2019t actually take them in. Joshua had to lead them to take hold of what God had promised. In the same way the covenant given at Sinai pointed toward the new covenant in Christ. Like a guardian it led the people to the border (Gal. 3:24) but could not actually give them the fullness of what was promised. Christ was the greater Joshua, he was the one that had to lead the people into the fullness of the covenant promises. He accomplished this by means of the forgiveness of sins. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Christ announced to his disciples on the night that he was betrayed that his shed blood was the means by which sins could be forgiven. There is no forgiveness of sins apart from the shedding of blood (Heb. 9:22). God\u2019s justice needed to be satisfied, and so it was in Jesus\u2019 death on the cross. All of the sacrifices of the old covenant were pointing toward something greater, a sacrifice that would actually accomplish the forgiveness of the sins of God\u2019s people. Jesus\u2019 death was that final sacrifice, a once for all sacrifice. That\u2019s how Hebrews 10 speaks of the cross. \u201cAnd every priest stands daily at his service, offering repeatedly the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins. But when Christ had offered for all time a single sacrifice for sins, he sat down at the right hand of God, waiting from that time until his enemies should be made a footstool for his feet. For by a single offering he has perfected for all time those who are being sanctified\u201d (Heb. 10:11-14). We\u2019re told that the Holy Spirit bears witness to this through the words of Jeremiah quoted above, \u201cI will remember their sin no more.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s an interesting phrase isn\u2019t it? Before I close out this article, we should talk about what that means. God\u2019s forgiveness means he won\u2019t remember our sins any longer. So does that mean God doesn\u2019t know everything? Does he forget as in he doesn\u2019t even realize that it happened? Some kind of self-imposed short term memory loss? Of course not. When God says he won\u2019t remember your sins any longer he is speaking covenantally. Covenantally speaking, God no longer remembers your sins if you are in Christ. They no longer come into play in your relationship. It is as if they never took place. In Christ, God doesn\u2019t treat you as sinful because Christ was sacrificed once and for all in your place. On the basis of that offering, he perfected you in God\u2019s sight and brought you into the full promises of the New Covenant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cHe has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.\u201d (Colossians 1:13-14)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \tThere is a sense in which spiritual slavery is inevitable. You have two options: You can be a slave to sin or you can be a slave to Christ. There is no middle ground, and there is no neutrality. In our father Adam and in following after his ways, we have sold ourselves down river to the cruel taskmaster called sin. He is harsh and malevolent. Even more than that, being enslaved to sin allows for mistreatment in the spiritual realm. It puts us in the domain of darkness, the kingdom of the prince of the power of the air, where rulers and authorities (think demonic spirits) can ravage our souls, discourage faith, and deceive us in all manner of ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tWhen Christ came to establish his kingdom, the domain of darkness lost its grip. He set us free from slavery to sin, making us instead slaves of righteousness, and in doing so he was transferring us into his kingdom. We are still subjects but to a different King, and this one is worthy of our allegiance. He also, \u201cdisarmed the rulers and authorities and put them to open shame, by triumphing over them\u201d (Col. 2:15). Literally he led them around in a victory parade. By rising from the dead, Christ put to shame all the spiritual powers that stood against him and his people. As a foretaste of this work in his earthly ministry, Jesus would cast out demons wherever he went freeing people from spiritual bondage (Mk. 1:39). <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tAll of this was part of his redemption of his people. To redeem means to buy back something, and it was a term regularly used of slaves. If someone had to sell themselves into slaverly due to their debts, someone else could buy them back or redeem them. Christ redeemed us in order that we might be his slaves, and this is true freedom. <\/p>\n\n\n\n How did he accomplish this? The text printed above answers the question. It was through the forgiveness of our sins that redemption took place. In other words it was through Christ\u2019s payment on the cross, the satisfaction of our debt, that we can be forgiven. So God\u2019s forgiveness actually brings us into a new kingdom where we are given a new master, and in doing so, gives us true and lasting freedom. I said there is a sense in which we are still slaves, and that is true. But the reality of our position in the kingdom of God\u2019s beloved Son is much more than that. Jesus said, \u201cTruly, truly, I say to you, everyone who practices sin is a slave to sin. The slave does not remain in the house forever; the son remains forever. <\/strong>So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed\u201d (Jn. 8:34-35). Later to his disciples he added, \u201cYou are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you\u201d (Jn. 15:14-15). You may have once been slaves to sin under the domain of darkness but through forgiveness you are now slaves of Christ which means you have been set free and are made friends of the Son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cFor by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God\u2026\u201d (Eph. 2:8)<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s always important to remember that forgiveness comes as a gift. It\u2019s not something that you earn. It\u2019s not something that you worked really hard for and now receive because you deserve it. It\u2019s a free gift for us, but that doesn\u2019t mean there was no cost. Every gift costs something. The gift of salvation, and hence the gift of forgiveness was something that the Lord has given us by giving of himself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you think about forgiveness, you need to realize that there is always going to be a cost. Justice requires that debts be paid and that sins be punished. The Lord could not have forgiven sins by simply saying, \u201cno worries\u201d, and moving on. No, he had to actually pay the penalty, covering the debt himself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s try to illustrate this idea: Justice requires that when you steal something, you return it or pay for it. Let\u2019s say a business owner finds out that you\u2019ve stolen $100 of merchandise from them. That $100 has to be dealt with. It would be just for the owner to take you to court to make you repay what you have stolen. Let\u2019s say the business owner decides to forgive what you have done and not make you repay it. Does that mean the -$100 on the books disappears? No, of course not. It simply means that the business owner is going to have to pay the price instead of you. Forgiveness is free for the one receiving it, not for the one giving it.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n When the Lord forgives sins, it didn\u2019t come without cost. Christ didn\u2019t die as an example alone, or just to make a show of his love. Those might be aspects of his atoning death, but he died primarily because it was necessary. It was the only way for redemption to actually be accomplished and God\u2019s justice satisfied. The debt had to be paid, the question was would it be paid by us or would the Lord cover it himself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Isaiah 53 illustrates this well. Let\u2019s focus on verse 5. \u201cBut he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his stripes we are healed.\u201d He was wounded for our transgressions. He paid the penalty that we owed. We transgressed the Law, we were not obedient, and yet he bore what was coming to us. He had to be crushed if we were going to be spared. That is what justice required. Notice that we receive peace and we receive healing, but that wasn\u2019t free. It wasn\u2019t cheap. It was very costly. In order for us to receive, he had to pay. He received the chastisement and he received the stripes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t forget that forgiveness isn\u2019t free and it isn\u2019t cheap. We sometimes think in those terms simply because we didn\u2019t have to pay anything for the forgiveness we have received. When we start to give forgiveness to others we start to understand it is very costly. The glorious reality is that Christ paid our debt, he bore the penalty we deserved, he fulfilled all justice so that we might be forgiven. That reality is all the more powerful when you see what it costs. It was a gift that cost his very life. He gave of himself for your forgiveness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBut with you there is forgiveness, that you may be feared.\u201d (Psalm 130:4)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \tWhen I ask my son, \u201cWhat is the chief end of man?\u201d He responds by singing, in the tune of Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, \u201cThe chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy him forever.\u201d It really is one of the great joys I have as a father. Why does the shorter catechism start this way? It\u2019s because it touches everything else. It\u2019s because that is the final purpose for which God created mankind, and why in fact he created the world. God is glorifying himself through writing this story of life that we call history, revealing through it his character and person, calling forth from all of creation that praise and honor which he is due. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tWhat is the chief end of forgiveness? Forgiveness plays a central role in this story God is writing (and has already written) because it is central to his very character. He makes himself known as a forgiving God and he does so ultimately for his own glory. That might rub you the wrong way. If we knew another person who spent all of their life seeking to glorify themselves we would think very little of them. That\u2019s because they aren\u2019t God. The difference is he actually deserves it. When one of us acts as though we deserve to be glorified it looks bad because we are creatures and our created purpose was to glorify another, namely the Lord himself. But the Lord is the creator, sustainer, infinitely marvelous God who is, as we often sing, beyond all praising. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tIt\u2019s only right and good that forgiveness would ultimately be done for the glory and honor of our God. So it is. \u201cI am writing to you, little children, because your sins are forgiven for his name\u2019s sake\u201d (1 Jn. 2:12). Forgiveness is given for the Lord’s name’s sake, in order that he would be glorified and honored, and that he might be seen as both just and loving, because that is who he is. Was this a new idea that John came up with? No, he was familiar with the Scriptures and knew that the Lord had said this himself. \u201cI, I am he who blots out your transgressions for my own sake, and I will not remember your sins\u201d (Is. 43:25). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Everything that we think, say and do is to be done to the glory of God (1 Cor. 10:31). This is what we were created to do. We do this more and more in our lives because we are being renewed after the image of God, and this is what God does. He seeks to glorify himself. His forgiveness leads to us fearing him, seeing him as he is, obeying him, and thus glorifying him in our lives. Once you get a glimpse of the greatness and glory of the infinite God, the natural response is to want to do anything and everything for his glory. The natural response is to worship him and to want everything and everyone to join in. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Forgiveness thus serves alongside everything else that the Lord does. It points us back to him and what he has done. It turns our eyes heavenward to the Lord on his throne. It brings us back to glorify him as he deserves and as we were made to do. The chief end of forgiveness is to glorify God. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div> <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cRepent therefore, and turn again, that your sins may be blotted out…\u201d (Acts 3:19)<\/strong> \tIf you\u2019ve kept up with these posts on forgiveness wait to go, keep it up. Hopefully they have been beneficial for you. Up to this point, all we\u2019ve really looked at is forgiveness from God\u2019s perspective. That is to say we\u2019ve looked at forgiveness as part of God\u2019s character and his work through Christ. From here we will be moving forward to what forgiveness looks like in the life of a believer, but first, an important question: What now? What are you supposed to do with the forgiving character of God? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tThe first answer comes to you if you are new to the idea of God\u2019s forgiveness. If this is what God is like, if he is full of love, compassion and forgiveness, how should you respond to him? Repent and believe. It\u2019s really simple and yet as hard as anything can be. Christ has come, the time of ignorance has past, and now everyone everywhere is called to repent of their sins and bend the knee to Jesus as Lord. That includes you. If you repent, the text above makes clear that your sins, \u201cwill be blotted out.\u201d To repent means to turn away from, have a change of mind. You turn away from a life of sin as God\u2019s word defines it and seek new life in Christ. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tThis has to be paired with true belief or trust in who Christ is and what he has done. \u201cTo him (Jesus) all the prophets bear witness that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name.\u201d The only way to be forgiven of your sins, to find peace of conscience, to be free of your guilt and shame, is through true faith in Jesus. There is no other name by which you can be saved. You can try, but you won\u2019t find any other method able to ultimately fulfill a promise of salvation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tWhat about if you have done that? What if you are a believer? Sometimes we tell others about the radical forgiveness of God in Christ, but once we are standing upon that forgiveness we seem to forget. All of a sudden we are fearful when we fall into sin. But God is just as forgiving today as he was when you first came to know Christ. \u201cMy little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous\u201d (1 Jn. 2:1). You will often sin and see that you are not righteous in yourself but your righteousness is Christ\u2019s righteousness. He continues to intercede for you and stand as your advocate. You need not fear if you are truly in Christ. Your sin has been dealt with. That isn\u2019t a false promise used by the church to get you in. It\u2019s actually true. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Lord Jesus showed his forgiving heart when on the cross. \u201cAnd when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified him, and the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. And Jesus said, \u201cFather, forgive them, for they know not what they do\u201d (Lk. 23:33-34). It\u2019s amazing that in the greatest moment of agony, when the worst of sins ever committed was taking place against him, still Christ calls for forgiveness. If he is such a Lord, what would keep you from turning from your sin and following him? Christian, no matter what sin you have fallen into, nothing should keep you from returning to your Lord once again for forgiveness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBe kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.\u201d Ephesians 4:32<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Over the past several months we have worked through all kinds of texts from scripture that reveal something about the character of God with special focus on what his forgiveness looks like. Moving forward, we will be looking at what forgiveness should look like in the life of the believer. To begin, we look at the text quoted above. As you can see, if you are a Christian, you are commanded to forgive others just like God has forgiven you, through the work of Christ. This has implications that will take hold of every area of your life. \t<\/p>\n\n\n\n You are supposed to forgive others like God has forgiven you. That raises the question once more, \u201cHow has God forgiven me? What does his forgiveness look like?\u201d It\u2019s definitely not an exhaustive list, but here is what has been covered about God and his forgiveness in this series so far: \tIf you are to forgive others like God, then it has to come out of a place of true forgiveness. What I mean is that if you look at this list, the reality is that you simply can\u2019t accomplish these things on your own. You do have to first be forgiven in order to start truly forgiving others. If that has happened to you, then you have the opportunity to live as Christ to your family, friends and neighbors, even your enemies. In fact, you don\u2019t have the option any longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \tColossians and Ephesians were written by Paul around the same time period and have a lot of overlap in content. This is how Paul puts a similar idea in Colossians 3:12-13, \u201cPut on then, as God\u2019s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.\u201d Forgiveness isn’t optional for you as a Christian. You must forgive as you have been forgiven. This is a central piece of obedience. What that means is manifold but following the list above it at least means that following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n That might seem like a tall order. That\u2019s because it is. Remember though that this isn\u2019t done in order to earn the forgiveness of God. That\u2019s why we started by looking at God\u2019s forgiveness. It starts there. Forgive as God in Christ has forgiven you<\/em>. You have been given the greatest of all gifts, forgiveness of all your sins which deserve the eternal wrath of God. So now on that basis you should also be forgiving those around you. We will try to work out each of these items in more detail as we look at what we are called to as believers, but for now meditate on this command, \u201cas the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIf you, O Lord, should mark iniquities, O Lord who could stand?\u201d (Psalm 130:3) <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the problems we have with forgiveness is not as much a problem with forgiveness as it is a problem with self-righteousness. Our perception of ourselves can seriously hinder how we understand forgiveness. If you have too high a view of yourself and haven\u2019t come to recognize how sinful you are in light of the holiness of God, then it will be harder for you to forgive others. You\u2019re covering your iniquity, but that doesn\u2019t work. Yes your iniquity needs to be covered, but it takes more than hiding to cover it, it takes a sacrifice (Gen. 3:21). So for forgiveness to begin, you need to uncover yourself from self-righteousness and look straight at your sin, not to dwell on it, but so that you can take it in all its darkness to the light of the world so it can be removed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tIf you don\u2019t think you are that sinful or you think you have been freed from the presence of sin on this side of glory, then you are deceiving yourself (1 Jn. 1:8). You don\u2019t get it. The reality is adequately stated by the preacher in Ecclesiastes, \u201cSurely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins\u201d (Ecc. 7:20). Or as Paul would put it later, \u201call have sinned and fall short of the glory of God\u201d (Rom. 3:23). If you think you are good, you aren\u2019t. If you think highly of yourself, you shouldn\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tIn the realm of forgiving others, this comes out when you see someone sin in a way which you don\u2019t think yourself capable. \u201cLord, thank you that I am not a sinner like this drug addict. This homosexual. This woman with countless sexual partners. This pagan.\u201d That\u2019s the heart of a pharisee. You should be able to say with the tax collector, \u201cLord have mercy on me, a sinner.\u201d You should be able to say with the Apostle Paul that you are the worst of sinners. This isn\u2019t to flatten sin and say that all sins are equally heinous in the eyes of God. They aren\u2019t (see the Shorter Catechism question 23). It\u2019s also not to shy away from calling sin sin. Everything I mentioned above is sinful and evil in the sight of God. The question is really how do you see yourself. If you don\u2019t realize how sinful you are, then you won\u2019t be able to forgive others of their sin because you won\u2019t understand what it is that you have been forgiven. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You need to realize the weight of your sin. \u201cFor my iniquities have gone over my head; like a heavy burden, they are too heavy for me\u201d (Ps. 38:3-4). This isn\u2019t so you are crushed beneath it, but so you realize that someone else has to bear the burden on your behalf, namely Christ. Why does the Bible speak of bestiality? Prostitution? Witchcraft? Effeminacy or androgyny? Cross dressing? Idolatry? Murder and human sacrifice? It\u2019s because apart from the grace of God, that is where your heart would go. There are no breaks in the human heart. Those sins that repulse you most should repulse you, but they should repulse you knowing that that is where you could end up if not for the restraining hand of God and his giving of a new heart. When you cover your iniquity with a self-righteousness, it is a false perception. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The need, as mentioned earlier, is not that you shouldn\u2019t seek a covering for your iniquity. It is that you would seek that which is actually an effective cover. \u201cI acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, \u2018I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,\u2019 and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. (Ps. 32:5). You need to realize how sinful you are so that you turn and seek the mercy of God. Apart from this you can\u2019t understand forgiveness, how could you start actually understanding how to forgive others? You must turn to the Lord and say with David, \u201cWash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin! For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me\u201d (Ps. 51:2).<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cAbove all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.\u201d (1 Pet. 4:8)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \tConceptually, you can\u2019t really talk about forgiveness in seclusion from the other characteristics of God which he calls for in us. There is intersection between forgiveness and justice, wrath, holiness, grace, and of course love. It was out of the great love that God had that he made forgiveness possible through Christ. \u201cGod shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us\u201d (Rom. 5:8). So as God loved us through showing forgiveness, so we should see forgiveness as a part of our love toward others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tCentral to this is the idea of covering offenses. To cover over an offense is to forgive it. The reality is that whenever you find people together, you will find ways that they offend one another. Sinful people have a habit of sinning against others. Perfection cannot be reached this side of glory so the only way to deal with imperfection in the here and now is to forgive, to cover up offences. This is done on the basis of Christ doing it for us. Because the Lord has covered our offences with the blood of Christ, we are free to do the same for others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tLet\u2019s try to work that out practically. Think of a time when someone said something that offended you. It felt like an attack on you personally. Maybe it was a joke that was directed at you, or told at your expense. How does love deal with that? It covers it. You don\u2019t have to let that small offense dictate how you live. You can simply forgive, put it out of your mind (remember it no more) and don\u2019t allow it to break your relationship. Think of a time when someone close to you let information out that you wanted to remain private. You could let that cause a major rift, or you could cover that offense by forgiving them. That\u2019s what love does. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tIf you don\u2019t have that kind of forgiving love then it will lead to regular disruption in relationships. \u201cHatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses\u201d (Prov. 10:12). If you brood over an offense, if it keeps coming to mind over and over and you dwell on it, if when you think of certain people all you can think of is the list of wrongs they have done you, then you are living in a spirit of hatred not love. Hate keeps a list of wrongs committed, love forgives. Hate allows bitterness and malice to grow, love forgives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Love through forgiveness provides the only stable kind of unity that we can have together. \u201cWhoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends\u201d (Prov. 17:9). When someone sins against you and you just want to keep bringing it up and rub it in their face, you are laying the foundation for the destruction of the friendship. Bitterness doesn\u2019t bind people together. Only love does that. Love is like velcro. It keeps people together. It makes a relationship difficult to pull apart. That only works when you work to cover the offenses of others. Imagine if we all did that. You didn\u2019t hold onto that negative image of the person across the pew from you. You quickly forgot the harsh word from your spouse. You thought the best of your neighbors intentions instead of reading each word with suspicion. To love one another well requires true forgiveness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div> <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSo if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.\u201d (Matt. 5:23-24)<\/strong> \tYou have priorities. There are certain qualities that you desire in someone over others. If you are a schedule oriented person, you probably prefer that someone contact you ahead of time to plan a visit rather than just dropping in on you last minute. If you are more spontaneous, you might not plan anything and would be delighted when someone just drops in to say hello. Different people have different priorities. There are certain qualities that trump others. Say you think it\u2019s important that someone be quick to respond when you text them. That might be important to you, but it probably isn\u2019t as important as someone being honest. So you would prefer a friend who never responds to your texts but is honest when you do interact, to someone who is quick to respond to you but lies regularly. Certain qualities take priority in our relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tThere are certain priorities that God has in how we are to live. \u201cFor you will not delight in sacrifice, or I would give it; you will not be pleased with a burnt offering. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise\u201d (Ps. 51:16-17). God instituted sacrifice, he regulated how it was to be done. It was important to him that people be a part of the sacrificial system in the Old Testament era because it pointed to Christ. Still it was far more important that the worshiper\u2019s heart be right before God, than the act of sacrifice be performed. The outward action was not as important as the condition of the heart. \u201cRend your hearts and not your garments\u201d (Joel 2:13). <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tThis applies in the church. God prefers reconciliation to tithing. The passage quoted above from Matthew shows that priority. If you need to be reconciled and have not yet been reconciled to someone, then God doesn\u2019t want your money. He would rather you go seek forgiveness than give to the church. That doesn\u2019t mean he doesn\u2019t want you to give. He still loves a cheerful giver. It means that giving is an outward show of devotion that is not as important as being reconciled to one another. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What this means is that as we seek to follow the Lord we should cultivate those things which are most important to him. The inward attitude of the heart should take priority over mere outward obedience. This is in no way to deny the importance of the outward obedience, but rather to find its true source. What good is your giving if you aren\u2019t giving of yourself to those whom you have sinned against? Seek forgiveness, seek reconciliation, and your giving will actually please God. If you don\u2019t do that, then you might as well keep your money, God doesn\u2019t want it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cFor if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.\u201d (Matt. 6:14-15)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \tIf you do not forgive, you will not be forgiven. That\u2019s it. That\u2019s all you need to know. That should be frightening, and its attested over and over again. \u201cAnd whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses\u201d (Mk. 11:25). \u201cJudge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven\u201d (Lk. 6:37). <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tPerhaps most noteworthy is the parable of the unforgiving servant. If you remember this series started by looking at Peter\u2019s question about how often he is to forgive. Jesus follows his answer of \u201cseventy-seven times\u201d with this parable, quoted here in totality:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \t\u201cTherefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, \u2018Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.\u2019 <\/strong>And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. <\/strong>But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, \u2018Pay what you owe.\u2019 <\/strong>So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, \u2018Have patience with me, and I will pay you.\u2019 <\/strong>He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. <\/strong>When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. Then his master summoned him and said to him, \u2018You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. <\/strong>And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?\u2019 <\/strong>And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. <\/strong>So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart\u201d (Matt. 18:23-35). <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is meant to be a warning for how we interact with one another. If you are in Christ, then you have been forgiven an unbelievable debt. A debt that you would have to spend all eternity paying off. Christ took that debt and paid it off. How could you be upset when someone owes you a nickel? How could you withhold forgiveness from someone for a small offense when you have been forgiven all of your sin against God? That\u2019s the heart of the matter. If you don\u2019t forgive, then you don\u2019t understand the gospel. You don\u2019t know Christ. True forgiveness is only found in him and our ability to forgive one another flows out of what he has done. To deny forgiveness to someone is to deny Christ. As a Christian you should be able to pray, \u201cForgive me my debts as I also forgive my debtors.\u201d <\/div> <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBut I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you and pray for those who abuse you.\u201d<\/strong> (Luke 6:27-28)<\/p>\n\n\n\n \tOne of the things that I have tried to make clear in this series on forgiveness is that you have to start with God\u2019s forgiveness and a changed heart. If you don\u2019t start there, you aren\u2019t getting on the wrong flight, you never even made it to the airport. Now, because it all starts with a changed heart, you shouldn\u2019t be surprised that a spirit of forgiveness is never alone. When forgiveness comes to the party, he brings all of his friends along as well. A spirit of forgiveness is a part of a matrix of heart attitudes that should all be understood in light of each other. Though we can\u2019t go into detail about each one of these here, it would be good to look at some of these \u201cfriends\u201d of the spirit of forgiveness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tLook first at the passage above from Luke 6. Think about the difference between your natural heart attitude and what Jesus requires of us. There is a sort of parallelism going on. You are told to love\/do good\/bless\/pray for those who are your enemies, who hate\/curse\/abuse you. That\u2019s a pretty serious command, and it comes from the same attitude as forgiveness. You aren\u2019t looking to get others back for how they harm you, instead you seek their good. You love them when they hate you. Your mouth speaks blessing over them, and prays for their good, even though they are trying to curse you, slander you, and even find ways to harm you. Think again of Jesus\u2019 example on the cross as he prayed forgiveness for those who were literally killing him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \tForgiving others is often listed among other character traits that are supposed to be seen in a Christians life. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, \u201cLet all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.\u201d Forgiveness is simply one item on the list. As a Christian you shouldn\u2019t have a heart that dwells on the wrongs or perceived wrongs that have been done against you (bitterness). You shouldn\u2019t get worked up and heated over the actions of others (wrath and anger) or try to even things out with your words (clamor and slander). Get rid of it all. Put it away, you don\u2019t need to respond that way. Don\u2019t let others have that kind of power over you, controlling your reactions by their actions. Don\u2019t react, act. Do what the Lord has called you to do. You can choose to be kind and tenderhearted, working for the good even of those who seek harm for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Paul has similar words in Colossians 3. In his list of things you should \u201cput on\u201d as a Christian, he includes compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, patience, forgiveness, love, peace, thankfulness and more. So you see again that forgiveness is one of many different character traits in this matrix of heart attitudes. Let\u2019s zoom in on one of these. In vs. 13a Paul speaks of, \u201cbearing with one another.\u201d That\u2019s a great phrase because it captures the emotion of it. When you group a bunch of sinful people together in a family household or in the greater church body what you find is that, you guessed it, they are still sinful. I know, hard to believe, but it\u2019s true. This results in hurt feelings, conflict, tension, stress, misunderstanding and all kinds of other relational friction. When that happens it will all fall apart if you aren\u2019t willing to bear with one another. It\u2019s not easy, hence it\u2019s \u201cbearing\u201d not \u201cfrolicking\u201d, not \u201claughing\u201d, not \u201cchilling\u201d, but \u201cbearing.\u201d It\u2019s like carrying a large weight. It\u2019s difficult. It\u2019s not always straightforward. It\u2019s confusing and sometimes you will probably groan under the pain it brings you, but it\u2019s worth it. This is all part of the spirit of forgiveness. A heart of forgiveness doesn\u2019t travel alone. <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBeloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, \u2018Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.\u2019<\/strong>\u201d (Rom. 12:19)<\/p>\n\n\n\n What makes it hard to forgive? Obviously, you could say sin, the fallen nature, corruption, etc. I want you to exegete yourself on a deeper level. What are some of the reasons you use when you refuse to forgive someone in your heart? There are many answers here, but one that I think is very prevalent is justice or some false sense thereof. When you resent someone and hold onto the bitterness, when you allow anger to build and animosity to grow, I think that if you listened to your heart a little closer you would hear it say, \u201cThey deserve this.\u201d Or maybe, \u201cThey don\u2019t deserve my forgiveness.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why do we do that? Why do we try to take things into our own hands and wish to deal out vengeance as we see fit? Ultimately, it must be that we don\u2019t trust God to be just. Look with me at the commands of scripture: \u201cRepay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, \u201cVengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord\u201d (Rom. 12:17-19). It\u2019s not just Paul either. Add to this what Peter says, \u201cDo not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing\u201d (1 Pet. 3:9). <\/p>\n\n\n\n As a Christian you don\u2019t have to \u201cget them back.\u201d They will get what is coming to them, good or ill, from the Lord himself. This is a good reminder that true justice can really only be found when you start with God. I was struck by this when preaching through 1 Timothy. In 1 Timothy 5:19 Paul commands, \u201cDo not admit a charge against an elder except on the evidence of two or three witnesses.\u201d This is simply a restatement of the Mosaic law of requiring 2 or more witnesses, and I had read both many times before. However, when working through the passage I asked a question that I had evidently not had before, \u201cWhat if there are less than 2 witnesses?\u201d What should you do if there is a chargeable offense committed by an Elder but there isn\u2019t more than one line of independent testimony against him? Nothing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Doesn\u2019t that seem unfair? That\u2019s how I felt originally. But then, think through the other option. You could listen to every accusation against every Elder and act on only one witness, leading to unjustified discipline against many innocent parties. In this life, God has determined that innocent until proven guilty is better than guilty until proven innocent. Much less harm will come by following his commands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Now what does that have to do with God\u2019s justice and our lack of forgiveness? Well, the same impulse that says it’s unfair that anyone could get away with sin and so we should move to a \u201cguilty until proven innocent\u201d model without proper witnesses to the offense, that same impulse is what causes us to say, \u201cI can hold onto my bitterness because they deserve it.\u201d It\u2019s the impulse of someone who has forgotten God. If this worldly existence is all that there is, and when we die we simply cease to exist, then we need to do everything we can to punish anyone who has possibly done wrong because there is no justice after the grave. Of course all of that being true would make justice itself an absurd idea. But this life isn\u2019t all there is. When someone sins against you and gets away with it, either it will be dealt with in Christ or will be dealt with before him as he is seated on the judgement seat. There is not one sin that will not be dealt with by God in this life or the next, and he has told you that he will be the one to take vengeance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So why do you forget him? Why do you try to take matters into your own hands? Hopefully you can see that a lack of a forgiving spirit is not simply a little slip up but a lack of faith, hope and love. Trust God, know that He is both just and the justifier of men. If vengeance is necessary he will take it. Don\u2019t repay evil for evil, but do what God has done in repaying your evil with blessing upon blessing, grace upon grace. <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cPay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, \u2018I repent,\u2019 you must forgive him.\u201d<\/strong> (Luke 17:3-4)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Wait, is that an out? We\u2019ve been working through this forgiveness series and so far it has seemed that as Christians we are commanded to forgive no matter the circumstance. But look at Jesus’ words above. \u201cIf your brother sins, rebuke him, and IF<\/em> he repents, forgive him\u2026\u201d Well, that sounds way easier. I guess you don\u2019t have to forgive anyone until they repent right? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Obviously there would be something wrong with an attitude that looks for opportunity not to forgive someone. That is a heart that hasn\u2019t understood forgiveness. But isn\u2019t that what the passage above is saying? Clearly there must be something conditional about forgiveness right? Well, yes and no. Jesus does set up a situation here where someone has been sinned against, and he gives them very clear instructions on what to do about it. Notice that the focus is on the forgiving, so forgiveness is the main point. As with any other passage, this all needs to be taken in the context of the rest of Scripture, and here\u2019s something that is interesting. As far as I\u2019m aware (and I\u2019m fine being proven wrong), this is the only passage in the Bible dealing with forgiveness that includes a conditional. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Here\u2019s what I think is going on. Most of the passages we have covered in this series deal with a spirit of forgiveness, or a forgiving heart. Spoken of in this way, forgiveness is something you can do before anyone repents and even if they never do. You can forgive them in your heart, which means that everything that you can do leading to reconciliation has been done. But that can\u2019t reconcile you to someone else until they turn from their sin. The forgiveness spoken of above could be called transactional or reconciliatory forgiveness. This is where forgiveness comes to its fullest fruition in the complete reconciliation of two people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is not two levels of forgiveness but two different ways of talking about it. When you\u2019ve been slandered and lied to or about by someone you considered a friend and they know what they have done, you can forgive them in your heart. You can come to a place, in light of God\u2019s forgiveness, where you are completely ready to overflow with forgiveness toward them and put the sin behind you, but if they never repent of the sin to you then you will not be able to see that forgiveness actualized to the fullest extent in the reconciliation of the friendship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When your sins were laid on Christ as he died on the cross, you were forgiven. Christ said it was finished. But that forgiveness doesn\u2019t take hold in your life until you repent of your sin and turn to God in faith. This isn\u2019t exactly what we are talking about here, but it is analogous. In Christ\u2019s case, his forgiveness is effective and totally accomplishes its end goal. In our case, on the basis of Christ\u2019s forgiveness, we can cover over a multitude of sins and forgive someone in our heart. In this way we prepare for the end goal. This goal of your forgiveness, reconciliation, won\u2019t take effect until it is received. That is when forgiveness among men is complete. <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cHe is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world.\u201d<\/strong> (1 John 2:2)<\/p>\n\n\n\n God isn\u2019t thin or cheap with forgiveness. He overflows with it. One of the striking things when you read through scripture, or just look around you, is that God isn\u2019t a perfectionist. He\u2019s way better than that. A perfectionist wouldn\u2019t put up with Abraham, Isaac or Jacob. A perfectionist wouldn\u2019t call David a man after his own heart. What would you think of the women in Jesus\u2019 genealogy if you met them? Or Paul, as one untimely born, killing the people of God before the Lord calls him. We wouldn\u2019t have used any of them. We wouldn\u2019t choose any of them. God did. Christ died for them. He forgives much. None of them deserved his forgiveness. We fit right in. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Look at Jesus\u2019 words in Luke 7:44-48: \u201cThen turning toward the woman he said to Simon, \u201cDo you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven\u2014for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.\u201d And he said to her, \u201cYour sins are forgiven.\u201d Would you forgive a woman like that? The disciples thought he was making a mistake, but Jesus was revealing the very heart of God. He forgives much. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is then an example for us to follow. There are sins that are easy to forgive. Not all sins are equal. Some will have fewer consequences and may hurt you less. Though we don\u2019t want to belittle the significance of any sin, it\u2019s simply true that some will do more damage. There is a difference in damage between what a hammer can do when hit against drywall and what a sledge hammer can do when used on the same wall. So it is with sin. The consequences of a loose word, though damaging, is not at the same level as a murder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s much easier to forgive a loose word then it would be a murder. Surely God wouldn\u2019t expect that of us, would he? Is there any example of someone doing that in scripture? \u201cAnd as they were stoning Stephen, he called out, \u201cLord Jesus, receive my spirit.\u201d And falling to his knees he cried out with a loud voice, \u201cLord, do not hold this sin against them.\u201d And when he had said this, he fell asleep\u201d (Acts 7:59-60). Stephen\u2019s stoning is written to directly recall Christ\u2019s own death, and his own call for forgiveness of the murderers around him. That\u2019s a striking example for us. It\u2019s not to say it\u2019s easy. Remember, as we have discussed already in this series, forgiveness is costly not cheap. But how much more has God forgiven you? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Murder is just one of many examples. There are many great sins that need a great amount of forgiveness. It is both in the small everyday sins, the ones that would be easy to brush aside, and those that hurt the most and cut the deepest that God has forgiven. There is no sin greater than his power to forgive. Take that as a reminder, maybe even a challenge. If you have been forgiven much you should also, like Christ, forgive much. <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cLet it be known to you therefore, brothers, that through this man forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you, and by him everyone who believes is freed from everything from which you could not be freed by the law of Moses.\u201d <\/strong>(Acts 13:38-39)<\/p>\n\n\n\n We\u2019ve been walking through the scriptural teaching on forgiveness for some time now. I hope it’s been encouraging to you; I know it\u2019s been helpful for me. I have two more articles coming after this. One is on Ken Sande\u2019s 4 promises of forgiveness and the final is a recommended reading list. So, this is the last post that will dwell directly on the scripture in this forgiveness series. As we come to the end of this series, it seems best to finish once more with the call of the gospel, a call which leads you to call out and receive the forgiveness of God. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The forgiveness of God is all of grace. It\u2019s not something you work for and earn. It\u2019s not something that you can find within yourself. It\u2019s something proclaimed from outside of you. That\u2019s important for many reasons, but one is because if you think you have earned God\u2019s forgiveness, you will also think that others have to earn yours. You will turn forgiveness into a work instead of a grace. Law can\u2019t free you from sin or guilt or shame. Only grace does that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Look at Acts 22. This is one of several times that Paul\u2019s conversion story is recounted in the New Testament. Having been blinded and called by Christ on the road to Damascus, Paul is met by Ananias whom the Lord had sent to him. Ananias prayed for him to receive his sight, and then gave him his commission from the Lord, that he would be a witness of all the Lord had done. Acts 22:16, \u201cAnd now why do you wait? Rise and be baptized and wash away your sins, calling on his name.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you are reading this and you are burdened under the guilt and shame of unforgiven sin, if you have never truly repented of your sins and found complete forgiveness and freedom in Christ, then why do you wait? You aren\u2019t guaranteed tomorrow, but even right this minute you can be saved. You can be forgiven and experience the renewing of God\u2019s Spirit. Baptism can wash away your sins, not as a removal of dirt from the body in a physical act but as an appeal of faith to God for his righteousness (1 Pet. 3:21). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Notice that all of it is tied to \u201ccalling on his name.\u201d It\u2019s not a physical baptism that brings forgiveness. It\u2019s not your own supposed righteousness that God responds to in cleansing you from sin. It\u2019s not calling on your name that will save you. There is one name under heaven by which you can be forgiven and that is the name of the Lord Jesus Christ (Acts 4:12). It\u2019s in his name alone that you can find forgiveness, so why wait? Call on his name. Perhaps you already have. Then don\u2019t forget your first love. Don\u2019t think that you were given grace that you might once again earn the love of God. Call out again and find that you still stand forgiven by the atoning sacrifice of Christ\u2019s death. There is true forgiveness of sins. Call out to him and you will find it. <\/div>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Forgiving Much<\/h2>\n\n\n\nRead Post<\/span>
Calling Out for Forgiveness<\/h2>\n\n\n\nRead Post<\/span>
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